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Posted by angeles Posted on: 11/22/08

Sad news

I have been thinking about it. And I have also been thinking about posting about this... It may sound egoist, but I finally got to the conclussion that I NEED to tell you about this. My dear sister-in-law has cancer. After her second surgery, we were told, yesterday, she has metastasis.

Yesterday, I had an online class with Amanda, a brilliant Spanish student from Virginia. But I told her I had not strength enough to spend an hour in class. My brain, my mind, simply, were not in this world. I was shocked. And she really understood it. Amanda's is just 15, but the way she thinks, she acts, is as if she was an adult. Even better than some adults I have met in my life!

I don't know if telling the world about this is good or bad, but I had to do it. I really adore PNN, and hope to be here more often than I did before today. (guess why).

And a final smile; live goes on.:-) Things like this make us appreciate what's important in life.

I have two lovely boys in my life: my husband, my son. My son, my husband. And I know I'll have to be strong, they will need me.


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  • I am so, so sorry to hear this news. And it's good to share -- you open yourself up to more support. And you have it from me, and the rest of your pnn friends.....we are thinking of you, your sister and the rest of your family.
    By chitowngirl on November 22, 2008 21:26

  • Thanks, thanks a lot. It means a lot to me. You know, sometimes you have to "hide" your feelings, and let your closest feel you have the strength. My son still doesn't know about all this. And I'm terrified! And you are right, I felt much better when I wrote those words, it was some kind of... "liberation".
    By angeles on November 22, 2008 22:22

  • I'm so sorry to hear about your sister in law. But I'm very glad that you are sharing your pain with the world, because, people wiser than I have said that every time you tell somebody, your burden gets a little bit lighter. And I know how hard it is to focus on everyday things when it seems like the world is crashing all around you, but It sounds like you do have so much to be thankful for in your family. I will be thinking of you.
    By laurieboris on November 22, 2008 23:53

  • Thank you very much Laurie. In fact, thanks God, my husband's family is so big (and so great!). We were this morning at the hospital, to visit my sister in law. And believe me, we had to wait for some of us to go out from her room, to enter and meet her. As soon as they knew about all this, all of them came to my city. My husband has 3 sisters and 1 brother, and all came here for the weekend, from different cities in Spain. I guess this says a lot about them. As we say here in Spain, "they are all together, they form a "pinnaple" when problems come".
    By angeles on November 23, 2008 18:49

  • It's tempting, sometimes, to hold our pain close, as if to protect others and ourselves from its sharp edges. But sharing sorrow halves it... and sharing joy doubles it. Thank you for sharing your pain with us, and I hope that the love and concern from folks all around the world fills your heart with solace. We PNN-ers are a ferociously protective bunch, and our arms are around your whole family. ~Hugs, MamaBear
    By mama bear on November 23, 2008 22:36

  • I am so sorry to hear this. I will definitely be keeping you, your family, and your sister-n-law in my prayers. Please keep me updated.
    By Grace Allen on November 23, 2008 23:10

  • Angeles, I am so sorry about your news. I am going through something similar with a very close friend (inoperable pancreatic cancer). It is so important for you to have emotional support as you go through this so that you can be strong for your sister-in-law. Don't lose hope, she will need you to have it for her when she is feeling hopeless and afraid and turn to your friends, family and community to help you feel hopeful when you need it.
    By goinggreen on November 24, 2008 01:28

  • Sorry to hear about your sister-in-law. And there's nothing wrong with sharing this. People need each other no matter what. More so during difficult times as this one. Take care and my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Hugs!
    By Heiddi Zalamar on November 24, 2008 02:50

  • I have to say... thanks you!!! I confess I'd never thought I'd receive such a possitive! Don't missunderstand me, please. What I mean is... I was just talking with my husband about all your nice words and support, the way we two receive your words... and you know, this type of support wouldn't happen, as far as I know, if I had posted my feelings on a Spanish site... People would just read my words and think... Um, so sad, poor girl... and them they would look for some funny videos to watch! So again.. THANK YOU FOT YOUR WARM WELCOME AND SUPPORT! Anf, by the way, I also want to say I feel much more possitive and with more hope than last Friday. And that's all thanks to you, Pnn-ers!
    By angeles on November 24, 2008 22:50

  • By the way... Is there any way to edit posts? As I realize there are a lot of typos on my last post. Sorry, but that's what happens when you just type trying to find the right words (Oh, yes, I admit I should have read it before posting!) :-)
    By angeles on November 24, 2008 22:53

  • So sorry to hear your news. Your family and friends will help you. You are not alone. Your new PNN friends are in your corner. Keep writing, we will keep you and your sister-in-law in our thoughts and prayers.
    By Kid's Talk Radio on November 25, 2008 21:40

  • Thanks for your words, Kids Talk Radio. Of course, my family is here, it has always been here, and when going through these type of feelings, we are all together, and that's the best thing.
    By angeles on November 25, 2008 22:19

  • I'm a bit late in reading your news, but still want to lend some support. Learning that a loved one has cancer and that it has advanced so far at the same time would of course be a shock! How is she dealing with the news? Please keep us aprised on things. We may not know her but we all know someone or someone who knows someone.... and we are all capable of praying. When my sister found out her mother-in-law had cancer, she went into hysterical laughter. She didn't understand it herself and was horrified as she loved her mom-in-law very much. She felt she should have been able to DO or SAY something "appropriate" but being human, she couldn't be there at first. As time progressed, she was there and while it hurt so much, she did manage to pull it together. You'll get there too. Perhaps you have already in some ways. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your sister-in-law and your family.
    By kkwhitmore on November 26, 2008 18:20

  • I'm so sorry to hear your bad news. I'm glad you came here to talk to us about it. You are not alone--we're here for you. ((hug))
    By Crayon Marks on November 27, 2008 02:38

  • Oh yes, Kkwhitmore, you are right. When the doctor told us about her metastasis, and even before that, some of my husband's relatives where crying... But even when were told, I was not able to have a tear... And I felt horrified! But then, I understood the reason for that. My son was there, and he saw his father crying. So, I think that's why I was not able to cry. (Something I did later, at home, when my son was in bed). Thank you very much for your words.
    By angeles on November 27, 2008 14:21

  • Hello Christy, It is so great to realize I'm not alone here! As you may have already read, I had my doubts, as I was new here and didn't know how all you would "react" when reading my article. In fact, it really was my way to take all this out from me. And when I started receiving all these messages, I felt I was not alone. Two days ago, I told my husband about it, and he was really impressed. I translated him your words, and, by the way, thanks a lot from him, too. From him, from me, and from all my family.
    By angeles on November 27, 2008 14:26

  • I am so glad you find comfort in this writing community. It helps all of us understand the world and some of the sadness that we face. You are right to look for all the positive things in your life and try to focus on them. I will pray that all of you are given the strength you need. I've had a lot of friends battle cancer...one friend in particular who has stage 4 cancer that has moved into her bones. She was given one year to live and that was 6 years ago. She is doing remarkably well and even though it is still in her bones it hasn't grown with the new type of medication she is taking. There is a lot of hope out there. Stay strong.
    By annie on December 09, 2008 03:23

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